My Marriage: The keys to its Success

MY MARRIAGE: The Key to its Success

Marriage is one of the most dreadful institution people fears to enter into. In fact, some will prefer to stay unmarried because of the horrific stories and experiences they had heard or had. Others will prefer to keep dating and playing games with ladies or men instead of going into what seems to be a ugly romance. But, is marriage so dreadful? Is it a black market, where you cannot predict what will happen to you once you enter?

My marriage has been so great a success ever since. This is not due to the great wealth I have acquired or the wonderful job I’ve got, nor is it because I own a big mansion with fleet of cars. It is not because am the most romantic husband that ever lived. What then are the great keys to this success? I will share them in brief in the paragraphs below.

1. The G Factor: That is the most effective tool I have been using in my marriage. This factor is the foundation of the first marriage that ever existed in human race. That is God. When God is the foundation and the initiator of your marriage, the future is secured. But when God is missing, any evil thing can happen to you, your wife or children. You need Him daily as the sailor needs a compass for a save voyage.
2. The D Factor: You got to have a Definition for your marriage or the type of home you want. A properly defined relationship will have purpose, goals and objectives. Before setting out, I took my time to define and sometimes redefine my purpose, goals and objectives for the relationship, so anything we do are in line with the goals set before us. The other D factor is; Determination. Marriage is not easy; it takes the strong to maintain it. Determine to make it work against all odds. Quitters are always a looser. The future belongs to the bold.
3. The F Factor: One of the most effective key to this my wonderful marriage is Forgiveness. Some said, ‘Marriage is the relationship between two forgivers’. That can’t be less of a truth. I have seen it work every time and it can work for you. The man that can forgive his wife or the woman that can forgive her husband everything is a great man worthy of praise. You may ask, how much should one forgive? Or, how long should I keep forgiving? My answer is, forgive every man or woman everything, everyday before you go to bed.
4. The R Factor: Most people lost this immediately they exchange the rings at the alter or in the court. If romance had work for you during dating and courting time, why throw it away now? Romance has a way of putting honey into you relationship. It has a way of putting smile on your spouse’s face. It has a way of getting sex from your partner. It has a million way of making all things work out well for the both of you. So, if you want that marriage or relationship work, go back to quality romance. You will have to thank me for this later. The beautiful cards and flower on his or her birthday, a welcome kiss at the door, an assistance given to her in the kitchen, a goodbye hug while living for work, an unexpected call to know how he or she is doing at work or home. The list is endless.
5. The H Factor: If this factor is missing, then all other factor may not work. You must have Hope. Don’t ever give up on your partner; don’t even try it once because, that only will destroy all your effort. Keep the hope alive. Keep trusting that things will work out the way you want them. When your spouse sees that you are not giving up on him or her, the door to change is wide open. You can imagine the opposite. You don’t have enough money to take care of yourself? Hope. You can’t get all your desire met at once? Hope. Your spouse is too adamant and will not change? Hope. Your dating or courtship days are better than what you have now? Hope. The other neighbors are doing better than you are? Hope. Hope never fails. Is alive as long as you give it breath. Never say never, and never give up.

Using these factors has been the secret of the success I have been experiencing in my marriage. Yours can’t be exception, if you will just try them out.

Author: Ben Ohonusi

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