2. Superiority: Contempt for woman as stupid, unworthy, a sex object or a house keeper. Think that a ‘real’ man should be tough, powerful and the head of the household. They may believe that they should make most of the decisions, including about how money is spent.
3. Control: Control is the” overarching behavioral characteristic” of abusive men, achieved with criticism, verbal abuse, financial control, isolation, cruelty, etc. The need to control may deepen over time or escalate if a woman seeks independence (e.g. going to school). They use violence and emotional abuse to control their families.
4. Entitlement: Entitlement is the overarching attitudinal characteristics” of abusive men, a belief in having Special right without responsibilities, justifying unreasonable expectations (e.g. family life must center on his needs). He will feel the wronged party when his need are not met and may justify violence as self-defense.
5. Possessiveness: Seeing a woman and his children as property.
6. Confusing Love and Abuse: Explanation violence as an expression of his deep love.
7. Manipulativeness: A tactic of confusion, a distortion and lies. May project image of himself as good, portray the woman as crazy or abusive.
8. Contradictory Statement and Behaviors: Saying one thing and doing another, such as being publicly critical of men who abuse women.
9. Externalization of Responsibility: Shifting blame for his actions and their effect to others, especially the woman, or to external factors such as job stress.
10. Denial, Minimization and Victim Blaming: Refusing to acknowledge abusive behavior(e.g. she fell), not acknowledging the seriousness of his behavior and its effect (e.g. it’s just a scratch), blaming the Victim (e.g. she drove me to it : she made it up because I have a new girlfriend). Don’t take responsibility fir their behavior and prefer to think that loved ones or circumstances provoked their behavior.
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