The Man's Fault
When a man start beating his wife, he has lost control of his life and his home. When a man start raising hands against his "love" his mind has be taken over by some psychological deficiencies. When a man can no longer use words to put things straight at home, he has lost it all.
You are not a man by how strong your muscles are against your woman. You are not a man by how much power you apply in beating your woman. Manhood is far from physically abusing your woman.
Any man who believe beating a woman once in a while will help "reset her factory setting" is a weak man.
Any man who believe women are stubborn and it takes only beating to make them obey, is a clueless man. Any man who thinks women are lesser human being than men, does not know God nor His works. Any man who believe if you have not beaten your woman once in life you are not in charge of your home, is living in mystery.
If you have made beating your woman a culture, you are sick and you need to see a doctor, yes a psychologist! A nut or two maybe loose in your head which needs fixing. See, this is how we will know you are in charge of your home: When you talk and she listens. When you give instruction and she obeys. When you discuss with her and she freely respond. Then you are the MAN! It is earned not imposed! Earn your respect don't force it!
The Woman's Fault
When a woman becomes abusive and disrespectful to his husband, it either she no longer loves him or she does not love him in the first place. When a woman does not give regards to her man, she is probably not seeing him as her admirable man again or she has seen a man that is "better" than him.
When a woman respect other women husbands or men (Her pastors, her General Overseer, her CEO, or her Manager) more than she does her husband, she is already emotionally and mentally out of that relationship. God is a perfect God, that was why He made Husband the HEAD of his wife. It is a taboo if a woman respects or honours other men more than her husband. God forbids it!
Though many fake pastors have made women to see otherwise. Your Husband is your head, not another man. Listen, men appreciate respect and submission from his woman more than "love". In marriage, love means respect and honour to the man order than romance and emotional expressions. You will hear men say "if she loves me, she will respect me"
No man can "easily" love a abusive, disrespectful, arrogant and uncultured woman. When a woman cannot accord his man the needed honour and submission, the relationship will soon break. Sometimes women will say "...but he is misbehaving" "He has no sense" "He is not man enough" These are not excuse for you to disrespect or disgrace him. As long has he remain your husband, he is your HEAD and you have to submit.
Submissive women are wise. They get things done with and through their husbands easily. They get their husbands' blessings and grace for all their endeavours. Look, no sensible man will lift his hands against a respectful and submissive woman. Men are not born violent beings. In fact men are more kind-heart and soft than most women. It takes a submissive and wise women to draw this out of him.
Benjamin Ohonusi Culled from The Morning After, a daily inspirational digest.
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